Episode #12 Dealing with Stealing
- First thing to realize, stealing is often a coping mechanism.
- This little action may stem from having to steal to meet survival needs.
- It might come from a need to be in control.
- It may have been acceptable, and in some cases a taught, behavior from bio parents..
- Just because someone steals, that does not make them a bad person.
- I stole an eraser cover thing from a store called Jobber’s Odd Lot. It probably would have cost 10 cents. My mom made me return it and I learned a lesson.
- You need to proactively work to improve the problem of stealing. It’s not going to get better on it’s own.
How to Proactively Deal with Stealing
- You’ve heard of baby proofing your home; you need to steal proof your home.
- Be smart about what you do and don’t leave lying around.
- Keep money, prescriptions, car keys, and other valuables locked up.
- Do a regular inventory of your foster kids’ items.
- When a foster kid comes into your care, do and inventory.
- When a foster kid leaves your care, do an inventory.
- Any time in between, especially when things seem a little fishy, do an inventory.
- Anything unaccounted for, extra, will be questioned and investigated.
- Be open about stealing, and be consistent with the consequences.
- Don’t ignore stealing and hope it will go away on it’s own.
- Do role plays!! (I know, we always say to do role plays, but they work!).
- Anytime something goes missing, whether you know for sure who did it or not, make sure that a negative consequence is carried out.
- This is going to sound harsh, but it has worked well in our home. When you have two or more people who you suspect of stealing, pick the one that you think it is and give them the consequence. Often, if someone else was actually the culprit, they’ll come forward with the truth. Either way, your foster kids will learn more if the negative consequence is consistent.
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Ben & Deb Pugh
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