Episode #15- Improving Beahvior with Role Plays Part 2
Things to be Aware Of
- This will take practice. It will not feel natural the first time.
- Having a structure is important when doing role plays.
- Role plays will be more productive.
- You’ll be able build a routine and habit.
- You and your foster kids will know exactly whats going on.
Steps To Actually Doing a Role Play that Rocks
- Start off positive.
- Say something like, “Good job coming so quickly!” or, “I noticed you’ve been doing a good job at Following Instructions.”
- Building new skills in best done in a positive environment.
- Let your foster kids know what your doing, and motivate them with a reward or positive consequence.
- Say something like, “We’re going to do a role play on the skill, Accepting Feedback. If you go through all the steps with me, you can earn an extra 15 minutes of video game time.”
- Discuss why the skill you are working on is important.
- With our older kids, we let them come up with reasons why the skill is important. With our younger kids, we simply tell them.
- It’ll sound like this, “The skill Disagreeing Appropriately is important so…,” “I don’t argue,” or “so I don’t cry,” or “so I can build positive relationships.”
- You don’t have to come up with every benefit to using the skill, but come up with a couple.
- Review the steps to using the skill.
- We recommend the book “Teaching Social Skills to Youth,” by Tom Dowd and Jeff Tierney. This book has tons of skills with steps and rationales for them.
- Steps for following instructions are:
- Have Eye Contact,
- Say Okay,
- Do the Task,
- Check Back with the person assigning the task. (Again, this is according to “Teaching Social Skills to Youth,” by Dowd and Tierney.)
- Practice using the skill.
- For Following Instructions, we might give a little task to complete, like “Please put your shoes away.” We also simply ask our youth to clap their hands 3 times.
- If your foster child forgets one or more of the steps while practicing, Do It Again!
- After your foster kid successfully completes steps 3-5, offer them the reward or positive consequence that you promised them in step 2 as motivation.
- Let them know that they did a good job, and that building these specific skills is worth their time.
- Promise, and commit yourself, to look for, and reward, their ability to use the skill that they’ve just practiced later in the day.
- Say something like, “I’ll be paying attention today, and if you can successfully use the skill Following Instructions, you will earn an extra 15 minutes of video game time.
- It is important that our kids are not only motivated to practice important skills, but also to implement them into their lives.
- Make time to do a role play with your foster children.
- Make a plan to do role plays on a regular, daily basis.
- Share with us how your role plays are going.
- And, as always–Share this with other foster parents. Help us build this online community of foster parents who are committed to being their best and are committed to helping others be their best.
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Until next time!
Ben & Deb Pugh
The Foster Parents