Episode #17 : Understanding Foster Care With Dr. John DeGarmo
Every child deserves a family, and every child deserves love.
Foster care is an awesome experience when partners are equally involved. Foster parents who are not in it together eventually struggle.
- Grief and loss are real and natural.
- By loving foster kids, we open ourselves up to loss and grief.
- The harder you work for your foster kids, the harder it can be when they leave.
- Even kids that struggle in your home, will leave a void in your life is leaving.
- Guilt is a part of grief. It is normal to wonder if you could have or should have done more.
- It’s common to feel, “I could have done more!”
- Don’t become calloused and insensitive to the others who are feeling grief as well.
- Remember that your foster kids are feeling grief and loss.
- Bio-Parents are feeling grief as well.
- Caseworkers feel grief associated with the kids who they are over.
How do we help foster kids deal with grief and loss? How can we help them Transition in or out of our home.
- What to do when kids come into your home.
- DO Be patient.
- DO Remember that they have been taken from home and placed in a strange place.
- DO NOT be demanding during the initial stage of placement.
- DO NOT be overbearing on rules and expectations.
- DO MAKE SURE TO DEVELOP LOVE AND TRUST!
- When foster kids leave.
- Have a going away party.
- Send them with a picture.
- Stay in contact with them.
What are some of the resources at Dr. John DeGarmo website:
Call to Action!
- Leave us a comment about how you have dealt with grief and loss
- Be more aware of how grief and loss effects you, your foster children and all of the people involved in the case.
- Share this with other foster parents. Help us build this online community of foster parents who are committed to being their best and are committed to helping others be their best.
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Until next time!
Ben & Deb Pugh
The Foster Parents