Episode #20- This HAS to Change!
We want things to change…We want things to Improve!
Change is Possible!
- You can only change YOU! No matter what you do, you can’t force someone else to change.
- You have to BELIEVE that you can change something.
- You may have to try 100 different things before something will work, which means you’re changing things a lot.
Some things that you can’t change:
-Caseworkers & Bio-parents
What we did to improve our situation with our caseworker –
-Started communicating better with the caseworker. We sent him a weekly email and let him know how this youth was doing in our home, what we were working on with him, and what different things we were doing for fun in our home (sending pictures)
Don’t complain about things that aren’t going well. Just try and look at the positives and change what you have the ability to change and improve.
Give People a Heads Up!
- You cannot change anything with someone if you never let them know you expect or want a change.
- When we decided we were going to change our relationship with our caseworker we let him know what we were going to do beforehand.
Use Family Meetings to help change things in your home.
- Sit down and let your youth know what you want to change. They probably won’t know that you even want them to change something if you don’t let them know.
- This can give them a chance to come up with some solutions to the problem.
Start with a Quick Win!
- Choose something that you can get to change quickly.
Call to Action:
Find something that you can change about yourself this week, and share with us in the comments what you are going to work on this week. You can also join us in the Facebook group.
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Until next time!
Ben & Deb Pugh
The Foster Parents