Episode # 37 How to Empower Your Foster Kids
So many foster kids have all but all of their power stripped away from them. As a result of this, they feel powerless, and they often give up and quit trying.
It is our job as foster parents to empower our foster kids. We need to help them develop the skills, the confidence, and the tools that they need to be successful.
Too many times foster kids are passed from one house, school, or town to another. They are looked at as a problem that needs to be passed to someone else. When this happens, their strengths are ignored and their weaknesses are magnified and focused on.
Here are some things that we do to empower our foster kids.
Identify their strengths.
- Everyone has strengths. Identify what your foster kids’ strengths are, and help them identify their own strengths.
- Point out their strengths to others.
- “She is very willing to help around the house. She’s so thoughtful!”
- Ask others (case workers, bio parents, teachers) what some strengths are that they have noticed.
Build on strengths.
We live in a culture where we want to build on weaknesses. If our kids struggle in math, we want to focus and build on math. Instead of this approach, as foster parents we need to build on the strengths of our foster kids.
- If your foster youth has a real strength in the area of art, use that to build on other skills.
- We have practiced following instructions by having our foster kids draw specific things for us.
- If your foster youth has a strength in communication, let them use that strength to learn specific skills by communicating pros and cons about those skills.
- If your foster youth has a strength of thinking of others, use that to build relationships.
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Let us know what skills you focus on and teach in your home. How do you best empower your foster kids?
Until next time!
Ben & Deb Pugh
The Foster Parents