Episode #41 – 7 Tips to Handle Hard Caseworkers
As we’ve fostered for almost 7 years, we’ve noticed that it is often hard to get along with caseworkers. So, we thought that it might be helpful if we came up with a list of things that we do that help us get along with caseworkers.
- Know what you’r getting into.
- Realize that you are not going to like all of your caseworkers.
- Some caseworkers will be easier to get along with than others.
- It IS possible to get along with any caseworker.
- You need to be in control of you.
- You cannot control your caseworker.
- They cannot control you.
- No one can make you feel any emotions.
- Be proactive. (This one is a BIG one!)
- Set boundaries.
- Don’t let your caseworker walk all over you.
- When things don’t work for you, let them know.
- Find out what they expect out of you, and let them know what you expect out of them.
- Find out what your caseworker wants and give it to them.
- They maybe regular updates, emails with pictures, prompt return of phone calls.
- Elicit feedback.
- Ask them what they would like to see from you.
- Set boundaries.
- Compliment your caseworker on something they do well.
- This is as much for you as it is for them.
- This will help you look more positively at your caseworker.
- It might be hard, and it might be a stretch, but find something.
- Treat good caseworkers like gold!!
- Caseworkers talk to each other, so make sure you treat them right.
- We’ve had caseworkers who love us simply because another caseworker buddy loved us.
- Because of this, we have caseworkers specifically requesting our home.
- Give them a break!
- If you think it’s tough being a foster parent, try being a caseworker.
- You might have a few foster kids, your caseworkers have more.
- Think going to court with your foster kids is a pain, multiply that by 5-10.
- Everyone is really doing their best.
- Be flexible.
- Again, this is as much for your sake as for theirs.
- The more rigid you are, the harder it will be for them to meet your expectations.
- The more rigid you choose to be, the more annoyed you choose to be.
Bottom line is, it’s going to take some work to get along with some caseworkers. And, that work is on you. Remember that you are the only one you can control.
Call to Action:
- Find something nice to say about your caseworker(s).
- Say it to them!
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Until next time!
Ben & Deb Pugh
The Foster Parents